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Am o fetita de 1an si 4 luni si pot sa spun ca nimic nu o intereseaza mai mult decit jocurile lego.Nu-mi dau seama daca o atrag mai mult culorile sau forma cuburilor.

ce sa zic, ma cutremur fratilor cand citesc ce spun unii... auzi l-au tinut pe copil cu forta si i-au dat cu dezinfectant in timp ce acesta urla... teribil... in africa fac asa cu femeile, le pun acid pe clitoris ca sa le dezinfecteze si sa le faca mai "sfinte" vezi doamne... altcineva spunea ca are un baiat de 2 ani si are fimoza??? de unde stii??? ai un diagnostic de la un doctor? stii ca fimoza nu se poate diagnostica decat dupa ce a trecut faza de crestere, ceea ce insemana dupa adolscenta? si mai stii ca exista tratament alternativ non chirurgical? in fine nu vreau ca polemizez. merg pe premiza ca oamenii cand fac afirmatii ciudate le fac nu din rea vointa ci de cele mai multe ori din lipsa de informare. am si eu un baiat de 1 an si locuiesc in America de Nord. Asta ca raspuns la articolul doamnei doctor, motivele pentru care lumea face aici circumcizie copiilor sunt ignoranta si superstitiile legate de sex, inclusiv credinta ca ar conferi igiena. Si apropos de spalare aceasta se face cu apa FARA sapun pentru ca sapunul irita si poate desensibiliza pielea. Asa cum ochii si pleoapele nu se spala cu sapun ci doar cu apa. Ce sa mai vorbim de circumcizia insasi care o desensibilizeaza complet... prin amputarea totala a preputului si expunerea glandului permanenta in contact cu aerul acesta se va murdari deci va fi mai putin igienic. Cicatricile si ridurile lasate gazduiesc apoi usor bacterii si germeni... asa ca singura igiena este spalarea. Absolut toate asa zisele "beneficii" ale circumciziei au fost demontate in lumea medicala cu argumente si tratamente alternative non chirurgicale. Acesta este opinia dominanta azi in lumea medicala. O femeie care se pretindea doctor pe un website romanesc facea propaganda pro-circ. Asa de convingatoare incat cineva a raspuns ca "...oare nu ar trebui sa facem acesta operatie copiilor nostri...? Iata care a fost opinia si raspunsul meu atat la acesta intrebare cat si la doamna doctor care propovaduia: doug19782000, 2003-12-05 17:34:13 Voi incepe cu un raspus scurt pentru mesajul anterior: da, poti sa numesti circ "operatie" pentru ca asta este. Si este foarte traumatizanta atat fizic cat si psiholologic pentru copii. Si chiar la varsta adulta cand va realiza ca are o parte din "barbatie" lipsa, in timp ce 85 % din barbatii lumii sunt intacti iar aproape 100% din cei din Romania la fel, s-ar putea sa dezvolte o serie de probleme psihologice. In cazul in care se foloseste anestetic durerea este resusa dar ma indoiesc ca este este recomandabila expunerea unui nou nascut / copil mic la anestetice. Apoi intreaba-te: daca desi circumcis si tot ai nevoie de prezervativ pentru protectie anti HIV de ce sa o faci? In acest caz poate ar fi bine sa afli care sunt riscurile si efectele negative obtinute? Ma tem ca s-ar putea ca mai tarziu fiul tau sa te urasca toata viata pentru: 1. amputarea nenecesara a unei parti normale si sanatoase a penisului sau 2. preputul este un tesut specializat intens vascularizat care contine nervi legati direct de centrul placerii din creier. Prin amputare se reduce deci senzatia de placere in timpul sexului 3. alta functie a preputului este protectiva. Glandul (capul penisului) este acoperit, protejat si mentinut in stare umeda si calda. Rolul este asemantor cu rolul pleoapelor pentru ochi. Prin amputarea completa a lui pe langa pierdera nervilor din preput pielea glandului se va desensibiliza in timp din cauza expunerii permanente, uscarii si frecarii cu imbracamintea. Proces numit keratinizare a pielii (asa cum se intapla in cazul bataturilor). In unele cazuri posibil se ajunge la impotenta si exfolierea pielii glandului asemanator exfolierii pielii de exemplu pe spate dupa expunere la soare (plaja). Esti sigura ca asta vrei pentru fiul tau pe care il iubesti? 4. considerent legal: acesta actiune are putea avea consecinte sub incidenta codului penal. Ar putea fi considerata mutilare sexuala intr-un posibil viitor proces in care desigur ca vor fi atrasi atat parintii care si-au dar acceptul cat si medicul care a recomandat. Este OK sa supui un minor la o operatie traumatizanta cu sechele pentru restul vietii atata timp cat exsita tratamente si/sau masuri de prevenire efficiente si general acceptate de majoritatea lumii stiintifice medicale, care sunt alternative non chirurgicale??? 5. circumcizia nu este recomandata la ora actuala de nici o asociatie medicala din lume. 6. a fost sustinuta in trecut de o minoritate in lumea medicala (America de Nord) initial ca masura de "tratament" importiva masturbarii care - se sustinea - provoaca o serie de maladii teribile intre care orbire, epilepsie, par in palma, etc. Prin taierea preputului se sustinea ca sansele de masturbare scad pentru ca penisul se desensibilizeaza si in plus facuta fara anestezie la varsta adolescenta este foarte eficienta pt ca senzatia de durere asociata cu sexul/penisul va avea un efect salutar in abtinerea tanarului acestuia de la sex. Ulterior s-au inventat noi "beneficii" ale acestei forme de mutilare numita circ, ultima "descoperire" pseudo-stiintifica fiind ca previne SIDA. Esti sigura ca asta vrei pentru fiul tau? 7. O intrebare de etica medicala? Este chirurgia preventiva etica atata timp cand exista tratament sau masura de prevenire alternativa non chirigicala? 8. o chestiune de discriminare pe baza de sex: circumcizia (amputarea) preputului sau clitorisului la femei, desi ar putea avea potentiale beneficii nu este acceptata medical sau legal, fiind considerata mutilare sexuala de gr 1, in timp cand este vorba despre baieti... tacere totala. Si acum cateva idei pentru autoarea articolului: Ii recomand in primul rand sa mai studieze putin fundamentele anatomiei si recentele studii medicale(Taylor): nu doar ce este preputul ci si care sunt functiile acestuia, pentru ca asta pierzi prin circumcizie. Nu pierzi "doar o bucata de piele" ci cateva milioane de nervi cu rol in sexualiatea normala masculina, protectie, etc Atata timp cat exista masuri de prevenire eficiente orice discutie despre circumcizie nu isi are sensul. Si chiar si atunci se porneste gradual cu tratamet non chirurigical.Amputarea unei parti functionale a corpului uman este ultima solutie si atunci se face doar cu acceptul persoanei in cauza pe deplin informata si care desigur ca trebuie sa fie la varsta adulta. Doamna doctor este foarte entuziasmata sa ne prezinte "beneficiile" unei preceduri condamnate inca din timpul Greciei Antice si neeaceptata nici in prezent de majoritatea lumii medicale. Inceraca chair sa sugereze ca ar exista un anumit numar de barbati circumcisi in Romania. O asigur eu ca nu exista ci doar in numar mic care au suferit de fimoza congenitala (malformatie a preputului) si la care a fost aplicata procedura chirurgicala numita operatie de fimoza, care consta in repararea defectului prin minimizarea cantitatii de testut care se amputeaza... pe cand circumcizia daca stie exact cum se face, este amputarea COMPLETA a preputului, uneori chiar prea mult ceea ce conduce la erectii dureroase, iar uneori chair frenulul este amputat (o alta sursa "vinovata" de placere pentru barbati si care desigur ca sex-fobicii ar dori sa o elimine si pe aceasta). Facand o paralela cu circ masculina ce ar zice doamna doctor daca i-am propune dansei o circumcizie. Si femeile au preput cu acelasi rol... si cu aceleasi riscuri. Sau ce ar zice de o amputare de clitoris pentru revenirea cancerului clitoridian (da exista si asa ceva, asa cum exista cancer de penis). Asta ar "vindeca-o" definitiv de a mai avea orgasm dar ce conteaza ca va fi "protejata" de cancer ! Nu este minunat? Dar despre amputarea preventiva a sanilor doamnei doctor pentru a preveni cancerul de san care are o probabilitate infinit mai mare de aparitie, si nimic sa il previna non chirurgical asa cum sunt de ex prezervativele in cauzul SIDA? Ei ce zici doamna doctor? Dar de amputarea degetelor pentru a preveni infectiile la unghii sau extragerea preventiva a dintilor pentru a preveni cariile? Doamna doctor iti recomand sa mai studiezi, OK? Cei interesati sa continuam discutia pe aceasta tema pot sa imi emaileze la t100ca2000@yahoo.com. Thanks OK acum iata un link cu un articol scris de un medic din SUA. Vreau sa retineti ca aceasta opine este cea DOMINANTA la ora actuala in lumea medicala: http://www.mothering.com/10-0-0/html/10-1-0/10-1-protectuncircson103.shtml Protect Your Uncircumcised Son: Expert Medical Advice for Parents Issue 103, November/December 103 By Paul M. Fleiss Increasing numbers of American parents today are protecting their sons from routine circumcision at birth, but as their boys grow up, they often find themselves at odds with doctors who cling to old-fashioned opinions and hospital routines. I often receive calls from distraught parents who say that a doctor insists that their little boy needs to be circumcised because there is something wrong. When they bring their son into my office, I almost always find that there's nothing wrong with the child's penis. Occasionally there's a slight infection, but that can be quickly cleared up with an antibiotic cream. In all my years of practice, I've never had a patient who had to be circumcised for medical reasons. When a doctor advises that your son be circumcised, it's usually because he or she is unfamiliar with the intact penis, misinformed about the true indications for surgical amputation of the foreskin, unaware of the functions of the foreskin, and uncomfortable with the movement away from routine circumcision. Doctors can be psychologically challenged by the sight of an intact boy. They may see problems with the penis that do not really exist. They may try to convince you that the natural penis is somehow difficult to care for. They may cite "studies" and "statistics" that appear to support circumcision. Probably, the only problem you will encounter with the foreskin of your intact boy is that someone will think that he has a problem. The foreskin is a perfectly normal part of the human body, and it has very definite purposes, as do all body parts, even if we do not readily recognize them. There's no need to worry about your son's intact penis. What to Say When the Doctor Says to Cut Below is a list of some of the things that doctors have said to parents in an attempt to convince them to agree to circumcision. After each incorrect statement, I've given the medical facts to help you understand what your doctor may not know about the intact penis and its care, and what you need to know to protect your child from unnecessary penile surgery. If you ever find yourself in a situation where a doctor suggests that your child should be circumcised, the best thing that you can say is simply: "Leave it alone." Your son's foreskin should be cut off in order to facilitate hygiene. My experience as a pediatrician has convinced me that circumcision makes the penis dirtier, a fact that was confirmed by a study recently published in the British Journal of Urology.1 For at least a week after circumcision, the baby is left with a large open wound that is in almost constant contact with urine and feces--hardly a hygienic advantage. Additionally, throughout life the circumcised penis is open and exposed to dirt and contaminants of all kinds. The wrinkles and folds that often form around the circumcision scar frequently harbor dirt and germs. Thanks to the foreskin, the intact penis is protected from dirt and contamination. While this important protective function is extremely useful while the baby is in diapers, the foreskin provides protection to the glans and urinary opening for a lifetime. At all ages, the foreskin keeps the glans safe, soft, and clean. Throughout childhood, there is no need to wash underneath the foreskin. Mothers used to be advised to retract the foreskin and wash beneath it every day. This was very bad advice indeed. When the foreskin becomes fully retractable, usually by the end of puberty, your son can retract it and rinse his glans with warm water while he is in the shower. Your son's foreskin is too tight. It doesn't retract. He needs to be circumcised. The tightness of the foreskin is a safety mechanism that protects the glans and urethra from direct exposure to contaminants and germs. The tight foreskin also keeps the boy's glans warm, clean, and moist, and when he is an adult, it will give him pleasure. As long as your son can urinate, he is perfectly normal. There is no age by which a child's foreskin must be retractable. Do not let your doctor or anyone try to retract your child's foreskin. Optimal hygiene of the penis demands that the foreskin of infants and children be left alone. Premature retraction rips the skin of the penis open and causes your child extreme pain. There is no legitimate medical justification for retraction. The child's discomfort is proof of that. Your son's foreskin is "adhered" to the glans. It must be amputated. The attachment of the foreskin and glans is nature's way of protecting the undeveloped glans from premature exposure. Detachment is a normal physiological process that can take up to two decades to complete. By the end of puberty, the foreskin will have detached from the glans because hormones that are produced in great quantities at puberty help with the process. There is no age by which a child's foreskin must be fully separated from the glans. Some misguided doctors might suggest that the "adhesions" between the foreskin and glans should be broken so that your son can retract his foreskin. This procedure is called synechotomy. To perform it, the doctor pushes a blunt metal probe under the foreskin and forcibly rips it from the glans. It's as painful and traumatic as having a metal probe stuck under your fingernail to pull if off. It will also cause bleeding and may result in infection and scarring of the inner lining of the foreskin and the glans. The wounds that are created by this forced separation can fuse together, causing true adhesions. There is no medical justification for this procedure because the foreskin is not supposed to be separated from the glans in childhood. If any doctor suggests this procedure for your son, firmly refuse, stating, "Leave it alone!" Your son's foreskin is getting tighter. It no longer retracts. Something is wrong. He will have to be circumcised. Sometimes, in childhood, a previously retractable foreskin will become resistant to retraction for reasons that are unrelated to impending puberty. In these cases, the opening of the foreskin may look chapped and sting when your son urinates. This is not an indication for surgery any more than chapped lips. This is just the foreskin doing its job. If the foreskin were not there, the glans and urinary opening would be chapped instead. Chapping is most often caused by overly chlorinated swimming pools, harsh soap, bubble baths, or a diet that is too high in sugar, all of which destroy the natural balance of skin bacteria and should be avoided if chapping occurs. The foreskin becomes resistant to retraction until a natural and healthy bacterial balance is reestablished. You can aid healing by having your son apply a little barrier cream or some ointment to the opening of the foreskin. Acidophilus culture (which can be purchased from a health food store) can be taken internally and also applied to the foreskin several times a day to assist healing, and should be given any time a child is taking antibiotics. Your son's foreskin is red, inflamed, itching, and uncomfortable. It has an infection and needs to be cut off. Sometimes the tip of the foreskin does become reddened. During the diaper-wearing years, this is usually ammoniacal dermatitis, commonly known as diaper rash. When normal skin bacteria and feces react with urine, they produce ammonia, which burns the skin and causes inflammation and discomfort. If the foreskin were amputated, the inflammation would be on the glans itself and could enter the urethra. When the foreskin becomes reddened, it is doing its job of protecting the glans and urinary meatus. Circumcision will have no effect on diaper rash. Change your baby's diapers more frequently and use a barrier cream until the rash clears. Harsh bath soaps can also cause inflammation of the foreskin. Use only the gentlest and purest of soap on your child's tender skin. Resist the temptation to give your child bubble baths, because these are harmful to the skin. Never use soap to wash the inner foreskin because it is mucous membrane, just like the inner lining of the eyelid. Foreskin infections are extremely rare, but if they occur, one of the many simple treatment options is antibiotic ointment along with bacterial replacement therapy (Acidophilus culture). We don't amputate body parts because of an infection. Most infections of the foreskin are actually caused by washing the foreskin with soap. Leave the foreskin alone, remembering that it doesn't need any special washing, and infections will be unlikely to occur. Your son is always pulling on his foreskin. He should be circumcised. I can assure you that, whether circumcised or not, all little boys touch and pull on their penis. It is perfectly normal. Intact boys pull on the foreskin because it is there to pull on. Circumcised boys pull on the glans because that is all they have to pull on. Little boys sometimes will adjust the position of their penis in their underpants. They will also sometimes explore the interior of the foreskin with their fingers--a perfectly normal curiosity and nothing to worry about. It is important for parents to cultivate an enlightened and tender congeniality about such matters, otherwise they risk transferring unhealthy attitudes to their children. Sometimes a boy will pull on his foreskin because it itches. All parts of the body itch occasionally. Even a circumcised boy has to scratch his penis. Just as you don't worry every time your child scratches his knee, so you should not worry when he scratches his penis. If the itch is caused by dry skin, then have your son avoid using soap on his penis. Treat the foreskin just as you would any other part of the body. If the real fear is of masturbation, calmly remind yourself of the simple, natural fact that all children will explore their bodies, including their genitals. Touching their genitals gives children a pleasant feeling and relaxes them. Classic anatomical studies demonstrate that the foreskin is the most pleasurably sensitive part of the penis. You can congratulate yourself for having protected your child from a surgical amputation that would have permanently denied him normal sensations. Your son's foreskin is too long. It should be cut off. There is tremendous variation in foreskin length. In some boys, the foreskin represents over half the length of the penis. In others, it barely reaches the end of the glans. All variations are normal. The foreskin is never "just extra skin" or "redundant." It is all there for a reason. Your child should be circumcised now because it will hurt more if it has to be done later, or worse, when he is an adult. This excuse is tragically wrong and has resulted in a very serious crisis in American medical practice. It's based on the false idea that infants and young children don't feel pain. Babies can see, hear, taste, smell, and feel. In fact, babies feel pain more acutely than adults, and the younger the baby, the more acutely the pain is felt. If an adult needed to be circumcised, he would be given anesthesia and postoperative pain relief. Doctors almost never give babies either of these. The only reason doctors get away with circumcising babies without anesthesia is because the baby is defenseless and cannot protect himself. His screams of pain, terror, and agony are ignored. In any event, this all too common excuse is merely a scare tactic, one with tragic consequences for any baby forced to endure a surgical amputation without the benefit of anesthesia. Since your son is having anesthesia for another operation, we'll just go ahead and circumcise him. Most parents are never told that their son is in danger of being circumcised during a tonsillectomy or surgery for a hernia or an undescended testicle. It would never occur to them. If your child is going into the hospital for any reason, be certain that you tell the physician, surgeon, and nurse that under no circumstances is your child to be circumcised. Write "No Circumcision" on the consent form, too. Then if your child is circumcised against your wishes, remember that you do have legal recourse. Your son has cysts under his foreskin. He needs to be circumcised. During the period when the foreskin is undergoing the slow process of detaching itself from the glans, sloughed skin cells (smegma) may collect into small pockets of white "pearls." These are not cysts. Some doctors mistakenly think that the smegma under the foreskin is an infection, even though it is white rather than red, is cold to the touch, and is painless. As the foreskin proceeds with detachment, the body will do its job, and these pearls will pass out of the foreskin all by themselves. These collected pockets of cells are nothing to worry about. They are simply an indication that the natural process of detachment is occurring. Your son has a urinary tract infection (UTI) and needs to be circumcised to prevent it from happening again. The belief that the foreskin slightly increases the chances of a boy having a UTI is highly controversial and, more importantly, unproven. Members of the medical profession in Europe do not accept it. Medical research proves that UTIs are most often caused by internal congenital deformities of the urinary tract. 2,3,4 The foreskin has nothing to do with this. Even if it could be proven that circumcision slightly reduces the risk of UTI, it is an absurd proposal because UTIs in boys are extremely rare and are easily treated with antibiotics. Breastfeeding, too, helps prevent UTIs. Child-friendly doctors advocate breastfeeding not penile surgery. Your son sprays when he urinates. Circumcision will correct this. In almost every intact boy, the urine stream flows out of the urinary opening in the glans and through the foreskin in a neat stream. During the process of penile growth and development, some boys go through a period where the urine stream is diffused. Undoubtedly, many of these boys take great delight in this phase, while mothers, understandably, find it less amusing. If your boy has entered a spraying phase, simply instruct him to retract his foreskin enough to expose the meatus when he urinates. He will soon outgrow this phase. Your son's foreskin balloons when he urinates. He needs to be circumcised or else he will suffer kidney damage. Ballooning of the foreskin during urination is a normal and temporary condition in some boys. It results in no discomfort and is usually a source of great delight for little boys. Ballooning comes as a surprise only to those adults who have no experience with this phase of penile development. It certainly does not cause kidney damage; it has nothing to do with the kidneys. Ballooning disappears as the foreskin and glans separate and the opening of the foreskin increases in diameter. It requires no treatment. Your son caught his foreskin in the zipper of his trousers; we will have to cut it off. There have been rare cases where a boy has accidentally caught part of the skin of his penis in the zipper of his trousers. This is painful and can cause a lot of bleeding. Cutting off the foreskin, however, is illogical in this situation. By cutting across the bottom of the zipper with scissors, the zipper can easily be opened to release the penile tissue. Any lacerations in the skin can then be closed with either sutures or surgical tape, depending on the situation. The proper standard of care in this situation is to minimize and repair the injury, not make it worse by cutting off the foreskin and creating a larger and more painful surgical wound. Your son has phimosis. He needs to be circumcised to correct this problem. Phimosis is often used as a diagnosis when a doctor does not understand that the child's foreskin is supposed to be long, narrow, attached to the glans, and resistant to retraction. Some doctors are prescribing steroid creams for phimosis, but this is unnecessary in children, since the foreskin does not need to be retractable in young boys. The hormones of puberty will do the same thing at the appropriate time that a steroid cream is doing prematurely. In adults who still have a foreskin that is attached to the glans or a foreskin with such a narrow opening that the glans cannot easily pass through it, steroid creams are a conservative therapy. This is if the adult wants a foreskin that fully retracts. Many males don't, preferring a foreskin that remains securely over the glans. It is purely a matter of personal choice, one that only each male can decide for himself. Your son has paraphimosis and must be circumcised to prevent it from happening again. Paraphimosis is a rare dislocation of the foreskin. It is caused by the foreskin being prematurely retracted and becoming stuck behind the glans. The dislocation can most often be corrected by applying firm but gentle pressure on the glans with the thumbs, as if you were pushing a cork into a bottle. To reduce the swelling, an injection of hyaluronidase may be effective. Doctors in Britain have also reported good results from packing the penis in granulated sugar.5 Ice packs work well, too. Your son has BXO and will have to be circumcised. Some doctors equate phimosis with an extremely rare skin disorder called balanitis xerotica obliterans (BXO), which is also called lichen sclerosus et atrophicus (LSA). BXO can appear anywhere on the body, but if this disorder affects the foreskin, it may turn the opening of the foreskin hard, white, sclerotic, and make retraction almost impossible. BXO is usually painless and progresses very slowly. Many times, it goes away by itself. To an experienced dermatologist, there is no mistaking BXO, but a diagnosis must be confirmed by a biopsy. The good news is that BXO can almost always be successfully cured with steroid creams, carbon dioxide laser treatment, or even antibiotics. Circumcision should be considered only after every other treatment option has failed. Just as we do not amputate the labia of females with BXO or the glans of circumcised boys with BXO, it is logical that we should not amputate the foreskin of intact boys with BXO. Your son needs to be circumcised or else he won't enjoy oral sex as an adult. I'm afraid that doctors really have said such inappropriate things to parents. Such a statement is evidence of ignorance of the normal functions and sensations of the intact penis. Classic anatomical investigations have proven that the foreskin is the most richly innervated part of the penis. It has specialized nerve receptors that are directly connected to the pleasure centers of the brain. Your intact son is far better equipped to enjoy all aspects of lovemaking than his circumcised peers. The myth that American women prefer the circumcised penis is, in my opinion, demeaning to women. It may be true that American women of a certain generation and social background were more likely to be familiar with the circumcised penis than the intact penis, but this was the result of the mass circumcision campaigns of the 1950s not personal preference. I suspect that what women prefer in men is more related to the personal qualities of consideration, gentleness, sensitivity, warmth, and supportiveness. It is very unlikely that circumcision increases a male's capacity to develop these qualities. Your son needs to be circumcised so that he looks like his father. A child is a mixture of both his mother's and his father's genetic heritage. He doesn't need to look like his father, nor will he ever look like his father in every way. Each child is a unique gift, and that uniqueness should be cherished. The idea that a boy will be disturbed if his penis does not look like his father's was invented to manipulate people into letting doctors circumcise their children. It has no basis in medical fact. There are no published reports of an intact boy being disturbed because part of his penis was not cut off when he realized that part of his father's penis had been cut off. When intact boys with circumcised fathers express their feelings on the matter, they consistently report their immense relief and gratitude that they were spared penile surgery. They express sadness, as well, for the suffering their dads experienced as infants.6 Occasionally, a circumcised father will state that he wants his child circumcised because he thinks that it will create a bond between him and his son. It is a wonderful thing for a father to want to establish such a bond, but circumcision cannot accomplish this worthy goal. If a father wants to establish a lasting and meaningful bond with his son, the very best way, and perhaps the only way, he can achieve this is by spending quality time with him and by showing him much affection. Sadly, some fathers who have been circumcised have an unhealthy attitude and may look for any excuse to schedule the child for circumcision. Putting a child in a position where he fears that part of his penis is going to be cut off is abusive. When fathers demand that their sons be circumcised, I suspect that they are desperately trying to justify their own circumcised condition. The emotions that some fathers feel when they are forced to confront the fact that part of their own penis is missing can be so disturbing that they will do anything to block them out. A father who forcibly circumcises his son will not win his son's gratitude, affection, trust, or love. I am aware of instances where such events have permanently destroyed the father-son bond and changed a son's love for his father into rage and bitter resentment. In situations where the father suffers from an unhealthy attitude about his son's normal penis, I think it is best for everyone concerned--especially the son--for the father to receive compassionate psychological counseling to help him overcome his problem. All children deserve the safest, most nurturing, and most loving home possible. When physicians realize the important functions of the foreskin, they'll realize that just about every problem with it can and should be solved without cutting it off. Cutting off part of the body--especially part of the penis--is an extreme measure that should be reserved for the most extreme of circumstances. The only legitimate indications for cutting off any part of the body, including the foreskin, are life-threatening disease, life-threatening deformity, or irreparable damage. These situations are extremely rare. The best advice for the care of the intact penis is simply to leave it alone. The intact penis needs no special care. Let your boy take care of it himself, and when he's old enough, he will enjoy taking care of his own body. After all, it's his business. Just relax and avoid worrying about your son's intact penis. Remind yourself that the foreskin is a normal and natural part of the body. If European boys grow up healthy and unconcerned with their foreskins, so can your son. NOTES 1. R. S. Van Howe, "Variability in Penile Appearance and Penile Findings: A Prospective Study," British Journal of Urology 80, no. 5 (November 1997): 776-782. 2. J. Winberg, I. Bollgren, L. Gothefors, M. Herthelius, and K. Tullus, "The Prepuce: A Mistake of Nature?" The Lancet 8638, no. 1 (March 1989): 598-599. 3. S. M. Downs, "Technical Report: Urinary Tract Infections in Febrile Infants and Young Children," The Urinary Tract Subcommittee of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Quality Improvement, Pediatrics 103, no. 4 (April 1999): e54. 4. M. A. Gill and G. E. Schutze, "Citrobacter Urinary Tract Infections in Children," Pediatric Infectious Disease Journal 18, no. 10 (October 1999): 889-892. 5. R. Kerwat, A. Shandall, and B. Stephenson, "Reduction of Paraphimosis with Granulated Sugar," British Journal of Urology 82, no. 5 (November 1998): 755. 6. Rosemary Romberg, Circumcision: The Painful Dilemma (South Hadley, Mass.: Bergan & Garvey, 1985). FOR MORE INFORMATION Organizations If your physician or healthcare provider ever recommends that your child be circumcised, get another opinion from a physician who understands the important functions of the foreskin, no matter how "urgent" the situation may be. For help finding one in your area, contact: National Organization of Circumcision Information Resource Centers (NOCIRC). PO Box 2512, San Anselmo, CA 94979-2512. 415-488-9883. Fax: 415-488-9660. www.nocirc.org/ Doctors are encouraged to contact and join: Doctors Opposing Circumcision (DOC). 2442 NW Market Street #42, Seattle, WA 98107. 360-385-1882. Fax: 360-385-1948. faculty.washington.edu/gcd/DOC/ Another resource especially for nurses: Nurses for the Rights of the Child. 369 Montezuma #354, Santa Fe, NM 87501. 505-989-7377. www.cirp.org/nrc/ For information about alternative bris for Jewish parents: Circumcision Resource Center. Ronald Goldman, PhD. PO Box 232, Boston, MA 02133. 617-523-0088. www.circumcision.org/ One of the best sources of information on the Internet: The Circumcision Information and Resource Pages. www.cirp.org/ Books Denniston, G. C., F. M. Hodges, and M. F. Milos, eds. Male and Female Circumcision: Medical, Ethical, and Legal Issues in Pediatric Practice. Kluwer Academic/Plenum Press, 1999. Goldman, Ronald. Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma. Vanguard, 1996. Illingworth, Ronald S. The Normal Child: Some Problems of the Early Years and Their Treatment. Tenth edition. Churchill Livingstone, 1991. O'Mara, Peggy, ed. Circumcision: The Rest of the Story. Mothering, 1993. Ritter, Thomas, and George C. Denniston. Say No to Circumcision! Second edition. Hourglass, 1996. Books of special interest for Jewish parents: Goldman, Ronald. Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective. Vanguard, 1997. Hoffman, Lawrence A. Covenant of Blood: Circumcision and Gender in Rabbinic Judaism. University of Chicago Press, 1996. Weiner, Kayla. Jewish Women Speak Out: Expanding the Boundaries of Psychology. Canopy Press, 1995. Important medical journal articles: DeVries, C. R., A. K. Miller, and M. G. Packer. "Reduction of Paraphimosis with Hyaluronidase." Urology 48 (1996): 464-465. Fleiss, P. M., F. M. Hodges, and R. S. Van Howe. "Immunological Functions of the Human Prepuce." Sexually Transmitted Infections 74 (1998): 364-367. Jorgensen, E. T., and A. Svensson. "Problems with the Penis and Prepuce in Children: Lichen Sclerosus Should Be Treated with Coricosteroids to Reduce Need for Surgery." British Medical Journal 313 (September 14, 1996): 692. Nolan, J. F., T. J. Stillwell, and J. P. Sands, Jr. "Acute Management of the Zipper-Entrapped Penis." Journal of Emergency Medicine 8 (1990): 305-307. Shaw, Angus. "Africa to Address AIDS at Conference." Science (September 10, 1999). Van Howe, R. S. "Circumcision and HIV Infection: Review of the Literature and Meta-analysis." International Journal of STD & AIDS 10 (1999): 8-16. Van Howe, R. S. "Does Circumcision Influence Sexually Transmitted Diseases? A Literature Review." British Journal of Urology International 83, Supplement 1 (1999 ): 52-62. For more information about circumcision, see the following article in a past issue of Mothering: "The Case against Circumcision," no. 85. Paul M. Fleiss, MD, MPH, is assistant clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California Medical Center and is in private pediatric practice in Los Angeles, California. He is the author of numerous scientific articles published in leading national and international medical journals.

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Interesanta, povestea lui Mos Nicolae ! Mai aflam, si noi, cate ceva... Am printat-o ca sa i-o citesc si fetitei mele. In zona secuimii, lui Mos Nicolae i se spune Mikulas. Ingeras(Angyalka) i se spune lui Mos Craciun.

Buna,sper ca ma veti putea ajuta cu unele informatii in timp util.Sunt insarcinata in luna a 8a,sunt angajata la firma sotului(SRL),am platite toate asigurarile si continuitate in munca in ultimi 4 ani.Doresc sa aflu ce acte si unde trebuie depuse pentru a beneficia de indemnizatia de crestere a copilului si dreptul la concediu pentru sarcina si lauzie.Va multumesc,astept daca este posibil raspuns pe adresa mea de mail:corina@mia.ro

Pentru ca, dupa cum vedem nu se ia nici un fel de masura in privinta E-urilor otravitoare , ca noi care aflam de pe internet sa spunem prietenilor nostri si , in acelasi timp, sa ne educam copiii sa nu-si mai doreasca sa bea sau sa manance aceste alimente care contin E-uri. Ester destul de complicat cu copiii mici de 2-3 ani dar cu rabdare se poate. Poate asa comunicarea noastra ca parinti se imbunatateste. Este bine ca sa atragem atentia si sa nu ne mai temem atat ca nu este nimic de facut. totul incepe de la putin. Si pitin cate putin, constant devine mult. Sa avem speranta si sa contribuim asa cum putem fiecare dintre noi. Foarte bun articolul si documentat. Multumesc.Sa fiti si sa fim binecuvantati de bunul Dumnezeu.

Citsc cu mare atentie articolul DVS, deoarece imi doresc un bebe cat mai curand. As dori sa stiu cat mai curand daca avand ciclu dar mai scurt decat cel normal, as putea fi insarcinata Va multumesc Victoria

Sunt casatorita de 4 ani si sunt suparata ca nu pot ramine insarcinata de 3ani si jumatate merg la doctori m-am si operat dar nimic , sunt cu mervi la pamint si sunt foarte sensibila cind ma intreaba cineva daca am copii , o fi oare din cauza ca fumez sau din cauza stresului ? ma intreb daca oare exista si o incompatibilitate sexuala intre mine si sotul meu ? ce credeti ? multumesc

Felicitari din tot sufletul.Eu sunt mamica si cunosc foarte bine sentimentul. Sanatate si fericire.

In urma testului,rezulta caci sunt o mama excelenta,dar la efectuarea testului am ales doar variantele care mi se potriveau din intebarile existente,INSA eu imi pun inca multe alte intebari si nu stiu daca am procedet corect in educarea fetitei mele in varsta de 6(sase)ani.La aceasta varsta,Georgiana este o fetita foarte cuminte,destul de timida,n-as pute spune ca nu este sociabila,dar isi alege destul de greu prietene de aceeasi varsta.In dorinta mea de face ca totul sa fie aproape perfect in ceea ce o priveste pe fetita mea,cred ca i-am stirbit putin din personalitate.

Sunt din Brasov, am un baiat de 9 ani si de la 7 ani am inceput cu Zymaflor in doza inscrisa in pospect.Inca nu a schimbat doar 8 dinti de lapte dar de la 4 ani am fost la stomatolog cu mici carii .Atat eu cat si sotia avem prob.cu dantura.As dori un sfat.Unde sa ne adresam?Care este cant. de flour din apa Brasovului?Si....nici nu stiu ce sa mai cred.Multumesc!

Felicitari pt baietel! Tot ce pot spune este ca articolul tau m-a "uns" la suflet. Va doresc numai bine si fericire. Sanatate!

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Sunt casatorita de 10 ani si am ramas o singura data insarcinata acum 2 ani , dar din pacate am pierdut la 6 saptamani. As dori un copil si poate ma ajuta-ti cu ceva sfaturi. Am 31 ani . Va multumesc.

a folosit cineva vitamina E ca un tratament eficient impotriva infertilitatii? Care ar fi doza optima?

pai sa vedeti ce o sa se ''puna'' muncitoarele cu 2-3mil. salariu ''pe facut '' copii - le cred si eu ca le convine sa stea acasa 2 ani- sa-si vada odrasla crescand si sa castige 5-6mil. iar altele care cotizeaza la CAS cat au ele salariu nu-si pot permite ''luxul'' asta pt ca ne dau si noua astia tot 5-6mil. cu toate ca am muncit,probabil, mult mai multe ore decat restul si am ''ajutat''CAS-ul cu sume destul de mari in fiecare luna.si uite asa o sa se umple tara de copii- ca doar asta urmaresc si ei sa creasca populatia romaniei si sa fie realesi- si s-au gandit ca daca ''ajuta clasa de jos'' si-au asigurat voturile. ei bine eu cred si sper ca o sa se aleaga cu contrariul. si mai sper sa le vina mintea la cap!!!pentru ca acest lucru este inadmisibil!!!1 Era foarte foarte corect cu cei 85%. asa fiecare femeie-viitoare mamica are drepturi egale!!!! nu ne ramane decat sa ne rugam ca o sa-si revina. in caz contrar, pe mine, ma doare pt. ca, cu un venit 5-6mil. pe luna n-o sa pot ramane acasa mai mult de 2-3luni langa copilul care ni l-am dorit atat... revoltati-va dragi mamici!

E super acest site!Am si eu 2 intrebari.Cat timp trebuie sa treaca de la administrarea vaccinului antigripal pana la conceperea unui copil? Este prea tarziu sa ma vaccinez in luna decembrie?Va rog lamuriti-ma si pe mine, ca nu stiu ce sa fac!

Buna ziua! Este prima data cand iau legatura cu dvs. Sunteti extraordinari. Felicitari pentru acest site. Sunt insarcinata in luna a 6-a si deja am luat vreo 11-12 kilograme. Sunt foarte disperata, lumea imi spune ca m-am ingrasat foarte mult.De cand ma stiu am tinut dieta, imi doresc foarte mult sa fiu supla. Sunt o persoana slaba in partea superioara, si mai plinuta, zic eu, in partea inferioara. Seman cu mama, si ma deranjeaza ingrozitor faptul ca se depune grasime in exces (celulita)in zona coapselor, feselor,genunchilor,si a burtii. Acum doi ani am facut operatie de lipoaspiratie si am fost multumita,bineinteles a trebuit sa tin o anumita dieta, dar de cand sunt insarcinata, mananc normal, fara sa mai tin dieta, doar trebuie sa-mi hranesc bebelusul cu ce este mai bun. As vrea sa fac din nou operatie de lipoaspiratie, dar am inteles ca se face la o luna alaptat.Nu stiu cum sa fac pentru ca vreau sa-mi alaptez bebelusul, dar in acelasi timp sa slabesc asa cum eram dupa oparatia de ipoaspiratie.Am auzit de aparatul de vibromasaj "Celesse", oare da randament, sau poate stiti dvs. alte metode eficiente. Va rog din suflet ce ma sfatuiti sa fac sa pot slabi dupa nastere si in acelasi timp sa-mi alaptez bebelusul? Astept raspunsul dvs. cu mii de multumiri anticipate.